![]() Children, who have decent, moral parents, learn ethical behavior and decency through observing and imitating their parents. In all families, the parents’ own behavior and standards provide the children with the most powerful lessons about right and wrong. For example, the best way for parents to teach a child to be considerate is not to lecture about consideration and punish inconsideration, but for the parents to be considerate themselves. In situations where definite rules apply, parents should not act as though a child has a choice in the matter.Ī positive parental example has a much more powerful impact on a child than any disciplinary measures a parent might take. These should be communicated to the children and then they should be consistently upheld. It is important that parents decide on the rules that are necessary and useful in their family. Rather than shape the child’s character, excessive regulation acts to restrict and inhibit the emergence of his/her personality. However, unnecessary rules are disrespectful of a child as a person. Many parents mistakenly believe that to provide a child with structure, a parent must make a lot of rules. The following are useful guidelines for the discipline and socialization of children:ġ) Avoid making unnecessary restrictions, rules or standards.Ĥ) Avoid cynical, judgmental attitudes that reinforce a child’s sense of badness.ĥ) Attempt to control children’s acting out of hostile, manipulative behaviorġ) Don’t make unnecessary restrictions or rules ![]() The ultimate purpose of discipline is to help the child develop into a decent, likeable adult who is capable of survival in a social milieu, rather than one who is submissive to the socialization process. When a child acts up, they wonder about what is troubling the child emotionally rather than automatically punishing the behavior. With this sensitivity and interest in the emergence of a child’s unique traits, the parents maintain a sense of inquiry in relation to their children. Ideally, a parent’s style of disciplining and socializing a child reflects a philosophy of childrearing that allows and encourages the gradual unfolding of the child’s distinctive personality, vitality, and enthusiasm for life. So what are you supposed to do when your kids start to misbehave? Unless you intended to become a drill sergeant or a chief-of-police, even the word itself implies something you probably never had any desire to partake in. ![]() Anger, Parenting, Parenting Advice, Tantrumsįrom sitting them in corners to sending to their rooms, from saying to “say sorry” to giving a time out, the methods are all different but the question is the same: What is really the best way to discipline a child?ĭisciplining our children is one of parenting’s least appealing tasks. ![]()
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